Be Skeptical -- Don’t Trust Your Prospect

When a prospect meets with you for the first time and tells you about their situation, it’s easy to interpret that as engagement towards coming on board with you.

A prospect who seems to know what they want?

That’s music to your ears.

While they’re sharing their challenges with you, and as you listen and nod, in your mind, your instinct is to start solving their problem…right?

It’s not like it’s the first time that someone says to you: “I need help planning my retirement.”

As soon as they’re done talking, your instinct most likely will be to ask fact-finding questions and then share with them the path to work with you to solve their problem.

Everything is smooth so far, zero friction, “looking good” (you say to yourself).

They even say to you they’re “definitely interested” (and they’re high net worth) and ask you to send over information that will help them decide if they want to take the next step.

It’s an intoxicating experience, having your years of knowledge and expertise validated and appreciated, right in the first meeting.

That beautiful experience can then taper quickly, when they don’t get back in touch with you, or don’t upload their documents you asked for, to continue down your process.

You give it a week or two, still nothing.

You fire off an email to “follow up” but they don’t reply.

You pull up the courage to call them (even though you vowed never to “chase” anyone), but it goes straight to voice mail.

What went wrong?

How did this situation reverse so dramatically?

In your initial meeting, you were the expert and you were highly engaged with them discussing their problem – then they ghosted you.

Here’s most likely why, from a psychological perspective:

You interpreted their openness about their situation and quickness to tell you what they wanted, as “engagement” – and you assumed you had enough about their issues, to move them forward in your sales process.

The opportunity was right in front of you, all you had to do was reach out and take it… or so you thought.

That was a false assumption.

The truth is, your prospects often don’t tell you everything you need to know to really assess the depths of their problems, because they themselves, can’t articulate the context behind their surface level description of their issues.

They see their issues from a 180-degree perspective, yet you as an advisor, have the gift of a 360-degree perspective view.

Because you accepted what you heard, rather than challenge them to help them see the deeper context, impact and urgency of their issues (prior to asking for documentation), they felt the experience was almost a duplicate of the other advisors they are talking with.

This scenario plays out over and over for advisors, primarily because the industry still uses a commoditized “discovery meeting” approach to making the sale.

You see, when a prospect tells you their problem is X and that they’re therefore looking for Y, you shouldn’t assume that is the full truth.

If anything, it’s only part of the truth.

Chances are there’s “Z”, another variable or piece of information they’re not telling you… not because they’re trying to mislead you… but because they’re not aware of it or they can’t appreciate its significance.

This hidden variable is the key to: a) determining whether or not you can truly can solve their problem; and b) the prospect seeing you as an authority they can trust, instead of someone just trying to make the sale.

You need to be politely skeptical, so you can discover the hidden variable that wouldn’t be obvious to them.

There’s an approach to do this tactfully so you don’t come across as being difficult, but as an expert who genuinely cares – a truth-teller.

I call it “going down the iceberg”.

Like an iceberg, what looks like a clear and present issue, only appears that way on the surface.

Navigating solely from what you can see on the surface, puts you in danger of missing the deeper emotional issues and impacts that lie below, they need to accept, before you can go to a next step.

The truth of the sale (the iceberg) is always hidden below the surface, and it’s usually bigger and deeper than what you’re presented with initially.

To learn more about how to go down the “iceberg” and preserve your authority to avoid losing perfectly qualified potential clients, order your complimentary book and consultation below.