Selling Is Not About Personalities
Some sales gurus will tell you that the closer you can fit your personality to the personality of your prospects, the more effective you’ll be at creating chemistry, ultimately leading to acquiring more clients.
Some even preach spending your time having your personality profiled through multiple personality tools to better understand what “type” you are.
That all sounds great, if you’re looking to make new friends in a social environment.
Personality fit traces back to the broader sales concept of “relationship-building”, which predicates your ability to do business with people to the extent to which you get along with them.
The problem is, this approach turns your sales conversations into social conversations, which shifts your sales meeting in the wrong direction…
If your real purpose is to help your prospects see that you’re the right choice for them to solve their problems, but you rely on using relationship-building “skills” to accomplish that purpose, then you can be perceived as operating with an ulterior motive, which is the antithesis of how people operate in genuine relationships.
A genuine business relationship starts after they’re a client, not before.
Consider other sales interactions in which you’re involved from the customer’s side, such as seeing your doctor, attorney or mechanic.
There’s little, if any, “personality fit” embedded within these interactions, yet they happen as a matter of routine.
You don’t need to know these experts personally, any more than they need to know you.
The object of the interaction is for them to assess your problem at a deep level, so you instantly feel you can trust them to solve it.
The Sale Is a Problem Clarity Moment
It’s important to understand that the sales conversation is not a “personality fit moment” between two peers needing to get along.
It’s a “problem clarity moment” between an expert and non-expert, where the elimination of a problem is of mutual benefit to both.
Just like it is for you when you see your doctor, attorney or mechanic — your priority is to feel certain that they’ll get your issues solved.
A faux social interaction does not give them that certainty — it gives them uncertainty about your intentions.
And neither does education about your solution.
As a non-expert, your prospect can’t know if your solution will work until after they hire you, not before.
They can only assess how much they trust you based on how they feel about your behaviour with them.
Clarify Their Problem (Don’t “Sell”)
Clarifying or “diagnosing” their issues during the sales conversation is the only way to build deep trust, because it demonstrates that:
a.) You’re an expert on their specific problems and…
b.) You care enough to explain it to them without trying to sell your solution
You prove your value and build trust, when you do a deep-dive into their issues to help them understand their cost-of-inaction (COI).
There’s no need to create a quasi-business relationship (which is a form of “selling”) if you keep your conversation focused on the above.
It’s critical that you shift your sales approach from personality-based to a deep-drive problem-centric approach.
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