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How to Remove Sales Pressure from Selling

Sales pressure is a mighty obstacle. It comes in all shapes, sizes, and flavors. Beginning any conversation with the anticipation of a sale puts the whole conversation under pressure. This doesn’t normally create great results. It usually triggers pressure, resistance, and tension.

People have received so many calls with such a strong focus on “the sale”, that they usually react in a defensive manner. If you can release your expectations while making your sales call, you’ll diffuse the underlying tension that comes with sales pressure. And you’ll be surprised how often others will welcome talking with you.

Most of us truly believe that our product or service can help others, so we assume that anyone who fits the profile of a potential client should buy what we have to offer. Isn’t that one of the first things we learn in our sales training 101?

But this is a recipe for disaster when it comes to sales calls in this new economy. When we make a call assuming someone will be interested, we’ve automatically moved into presumed expectations.

No matter how well camouflaged we are, sales expectations block the flow of natural conversation and put pressure on the other person.

So try moving away from making any assumptions when making your sales call. After all, does it really make sense to make assumptions about someone you’ve never spoken with before? How much can you possibly know about their problems, issues, needs, budget, or other key information?

If you approach your calls from a place of genuine interest rather than expectations, you’ll diffuse any sense of sales pressure. The other individual will relax and the interaction will flow naturally.

However, if you’re already convinced in your own mind that they should be a fit, certain pressure has already started before the conversation has really even begun. The last thing you want is to introduce this into the conversation. So rather than moving into a sales presentation immediately, try maintaining the natural flow of interaction instead.

You can diffuse underlying sales pressure within any conversation by focusing first on whether you are a good fit. Invite the other person to focus on this with you. And determine together whether a good business relationship might genuinely be possible.

When our honest objective is not to make a sale but rather discover the truth of the situation, we have released expectations. The key is to offer options, so the person we’re talking with doesn’t feel pressure from us.

Overcome the temptation to immediately discuss what you have to offer. Instead, help the other person overcome the fear of who you are and what is expected. Potential clients are much more likely to respond to you when they are not subjected to an immediate mini-presentation. This approach usually just creates suspicion and rejection.

To allow the conversation to have a natural sense of rhythm. Define mutual interest before launching into a description of your solution to a problem you probably know very little about at this point.

If you’re still caught up in the traditional mindset of making the sale, your voice and demeanor will be full of expectations. Although you may even be using the “asking questions strategy,” you’re really thinking about moving the conversation into the sales process. Others will subtly (or overtly) react to this expectation with resistance.

It’s perfectly fine to describe your product or service. However, you must introduce this at the right time.

So be relaxed and low-key. Otherwise you risk introducing sales pressure immediately.

Rather than a presentation, you might begin with the question, “Hi, maybe you can help me out a for a moment?”

The person will almost always respond by saying “Sure. How can I help you?” You’ve now diffused any immediate sales pressure. You’re being genuine and not using the canned phrases that every else is using. You’ve gotten rid of the initial pressure and tension that comes along with sales expectations.

When your expectations are released, others will feel you are genuine and truly have their concerns ahead of yours…when that happens, you create real trust.

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To your success,

Ari Galper

Ari Galper

Ari Galper is the world’s number one authority on trust-based selling and is the most sought-after sales conversion expert for Business Owners. His newest book, “Unlock The Sales Game”, has become an instant best-seller worldwide. Ari has been featured in CEO Magazine, Forbes, INC Magazine and the Australian Financial Review. He is considered a contrarian in the sales industry and in his book, everything you learned about selling will be turned upside down. No more chasing, no pressure, no closing.

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  1. Wayne Taylor

    I have been doing group presentations lately when my time was limited and I had the wrong mindset. Too much pressure on me which I put unto the group. Forgot to engage and have a conversation first. Thank you Ari


  2. Sally Mandel

    What a great reminder Ari for us to stay present with our prospects and really listen, rather than focus on our hidden agenda of making the sale. By the way, I ordered your Sales Breakthrough Pack this week and it rocks! I’m already changing my approach and getting results, thank you!

    Los Angeles, CA